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When Love Is Lust/Lost, IV.

olawaliumPosted for Everyone to comment on, 3 years ago3 min read

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How do you know the difference between Love and Lust?

1. Why are you interested in the relationship?

Lust alone is interested only in the partner sexually. Love is interested in getting to know the person over time.

2. Are you open to the hard work?

Lust attempts to keep the relationship on an ideal level - let's see how it goes or those who don't make efforts to reach you or talk to you but suddenly want you to visit them. Love expands to having difficult conversations and exploring painful emotions - talking about your goals, dreams, fears and willing to get involved and help you.

3. How do you feel about the person's flaws?

Lust loses interest when you discover a person's flaws. Love accepts a person's positive and negative qualities. We all have flaws but go with someone whose flaws you can bear in the long run. Whatever you know you don't want in your future, don't settle for it now. Seek to address issues and overlook sometimes too but there are some issues you must never overlook...especially the ones that threaten your life and put your future at risk.


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4. Does the relationship get better over time?

Lust is about immediate gratification. Love develops trust and commitment over a long period. It doesn't just happen as we see in movies, it is built over time.

5. Where is the thrill coming from?

Lust enjoys the fantasy and excitement of the interaction. Love feels risky and vulnerable because it involves opening yourself up and letting yourself be known. It takes not holding back and the feeling must be mutual, not one-sided.

6. How secure do you feel in the relationship?

Lust can be impulsive, obsessional, and desperate. Love tends to be steady and secure. It seeks to show understanding and never hasty.

7. Do you feel "obsessed"?

Lust is a 'high', that can feel like an addiction and consume all your mental space. Love holds a more balanced perspective and allows for the ability to maintain a balanced life.

8. Is there longevity?

Lust dissipates over time as it is obvious. Love persists. Stays true and speaks more of the future than of present gains.

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...to be continued...


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