BUILDING YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE

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Life is much easier for babies.. When you are a baby, you get all the love and attention in the world. I can imagine what goes on on babies' minds, oh! how confident they will be. People are confident when they are surrounded by people that love, accept and praise them and babies have those which is why I say that life is easier for them..

Fast forward to adolescent and teenage days, you start schooling, mix up with people that are prettier and smarter than you. You start failing in some subjects, you parents establish rules that are not funny at all, your peers begin to bully you and back home your parents yell at you as well, life is not so easy anymore.. These things start eating up your self confidence little by little. If you are lucky to have supportive parents, the damage will be less but if you grew up in an abusive home where your loved ones kept throwing abusive words at you, it could be really bad. Your self confidence level will be down to zero and it will remain that way if you let it.

As long as you are alive, you will definitely be an adult or you are already.. And you have to make choices that will take your life to the next level, no one will make decisions for you and you can't make the best decisions with a zero confidence. Whether your self confidence is low in a particular area of your life or career or it is low in every area, it is left for you to build it up. You will have to make a decision to take control of your life, you won't always have people to pat your back, everyone will eventually get busy with their own life and you will be left alone to live your life on your own terms..

Remember Your Success

The mind has a way of messing with us. Most times it feeds us with negative thoughts about ourselves and reminds us of our failures.. When that happens, recount your successes and remind yourself that you can be successful in anything you put your mind to.

Train your mind.

Don't form the habit of letting negative thoughts dwell in your mind. This is because those thoughts always have a way of being real. Train your mind over and over again with positive thoughts. If negative thoughts can become real, why spend so much time on them. Create something positive in your mind every second..

Identify your skills

Identify your skills, abilities and gifts and get familiar with them. You can also write them down, that way it will be difficult to forget. So any time you don't feel confident, they will serve as a reminder.

Don't stop learning.

As humans, we are so talented that we can do anything we put our minds on. So discover the areas or skills that your are not confident in, learn and practice them, You'll get confident as you get better. Remember that practice makes perfect.

Embrace your failures.

There is no mistakes in life, there's only lessons..
Big Sean

Focusing on the regrets you feel as a result of your failures and mistakes takes away your Confidence. It's not bad to be wrong or to fail at something, instead of focusing on the failures, identify what that situation taught you and turn those lessons into your strengths.

Leave your comfort zone.

Try something you've never tried before. Fear takes away our confidence. Find out what you are so afraid of trying that makes you unconfident and take little steps every day towards that direction. You need to take those little steps especially if it is needed in your career.

Work on your Posture

Appearance is everything, that's what people will notice first about you. Work on your posture, stand straighter, carry an air of confidence when you talk and walk. Smile always.

Always Look good.

People are more confident when they look their best. Imagine how confident you felt when you wear your favorite clothes. By the way, remember that we are addressed by how we dress.

Get a mentor/ read books

Follow someone that inspires you.. Read books that will help you build your confidence.

I hope this is helpful?.
Originally posted on my Steemit here and here

Thanks for reading..

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