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It's Not For Everyone.

olawaliumPosted for Everyone to comment on, 2 months ago5 min read

The common mistake most of us make is that we feel and think we can do everything. We think we can get our hands on things because we have read one motivational quote somewhere that tells us we can do anything we put our minds to. Yes, we can but there is wisdom in knowing what's within your ability and what's not.


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One of the most amazing things about humans is that we can adapt to any situation but there are some areas of life that are off-limits especially when you are the type that doesn't like much drama and troubles. We can give our best to things we are fully convinced and persuaded about without having to look clueless. This is one of the many problems we are having in Nigeria because everyone wants to go into politics without understanding what service means. Just because you speak Latin doesn't mean you know how to speak neither is the fact that you took a vow, it doesn't mean you know how to love. Civilization is in danger when those who have never learned to obey are given the right to command.

It's always a disaster waiting to happen when we force ourselves into things that are not our natural traits. It's okay not to be okay. It's okay not to know everything but that which you know, make sure you learn everything there is to learn about it. This goes for those in relationships or marriages too. I've said it many times and I would say it again that marriage isn't for everyone. It doesn't mean you can't live a fulfilled life if you choose not to marry. In fact, there are some relationships that come as a distraction to the greater things you can achieve in life which is why it takes caution.

Everything is not meant for you. Someone joked and said if you desire everything where would you put it? There are some things that are not meant for everyone and understanding what works for you is the beginning of wisdom because we live in a world that wants to put pressure on us by how good others are doing in certain fields. You see parents, friends and even acquaintances looking at you in a funny way when either your wife is doing better or your friend is thriving more in certain fields. They want you to get into that space too thinking that's how you can make it without understanding your lack of strength in that area.

I support those who build up strength and talents in other chosen fields but it would take twice as much effort from them than from those who have that natural talent to get those things done. When you see someone make creativity ooze out of what seems natural, just know that it's not force...it comes naturally for some people and trying to be like them would send you down the field of frustration with thorns playing catch-up with you. It's only a matter of time before you get choked and give up trying.

Understand your strength and know what works for you. Whatever comes naturally to you without you forcing it, make sure you hammer on it. Whatever skills you can gather to enhance it, please make sure you don't stop at it. As I said, I don't mind people taking steps into what they are not that skilled in as long as they are ready to put in the work but don't leave your natural talent unattended. Make sure you have harnessed your natural talent first and then build on it by learning about other things you have an interest in. Most people have been frustrated because they ignored their talents to start acquiring new skills. Major on your minor first but most people minor on the major.

Marriage isn't for everyone. Politics isn't for everyone. Business isn't for everyone too. These are the things you can get easily frustrated about but when you know yourself too well, it becomes easier for you to learn how to pick your battles. I know the pressure in the world is real, especially with so many people breathing down our necks because they want us to become who we are not. You don't have to answer to every name-calling because those who pressurise you into doing what you aren't meant to do are the ones waiting in the wings to mock you IF you fail.

Determination is the key to everything...in learning new skills or developing your natural talents. Determination is the primary key to achieving so many things in this life. How determined are you in discovering what you are gifted in? How well equipped are you to take it up a notch? How have you developed the capacity to add to your natural talent and other skills that can advance you? These are the questions you can ask yourself and you are the only one to answer them.


This post also appeared here and it's my original work on my blog on Read.Cash.


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